A tingling sensation in the infected area Small red dots or blisters around the genitals Flu-like symptoms, such as a headache, muscle aches, fevers, and swollen glands
Be aware that herpes can be spread by both vaginal or anal sex. Use of latex condoms can greatly cut down on transmission rates of genital herpes. Transmission rates are reduced by 30 – 50% when latex condoms are used properly. Dental dams may not provide as much protection as condoms but can still be effective at preventing the spread of herpes. [4] X Research source Herpes can be spread through oral sex. Both the giver or the receiver of oral sex can contract herpes during the act; therefore, to be safe, you should also use condoms or dental dams during oral sex if you want to prevent the virus from spreading. [5] X Trustworthy Source Johns Hopkins Medicine Official resource database of the world-leading Johns Hopkins Hospital Go to source Consider using lubricants. They will not protect against STDs, but can reduce friction and therefore limit the number of outbreaks. Lubrication will also help keep condoms from breaking during use. Products like KY jelly or AstroGlide are available at most drug stores. [6] X Research source
Wash your hands immediately using soap and warm water after coming into physical contact with herpes sores to prevent herpes transmission. [8] X Research source
If you share sex toys, make sure you thoroughly clean the toys or use fresh condoms after use. This can prevent the spread of the herpes virus. [10] X Research source
Be respectful of your partner when suggesting they see a doctor. Talking about herpes can be embarrassing and stressful; however, your partner told you about their infection because they care about your health. Explain to your partner you want to make sure the two of you have as fulfilling a sex life as possible. You feel a doctor may be able to suggest medications or other treatment options that can lessen the likelihood of the virus being transmitted. You can say something like, “I like you and I really want to have sex with you, but I want to make sure we both stay healthy and safe. What would you think about talking with your doctor about the best way for us to have fun and stay safe?”
Your doctor can prescribe antiviral pills. Some people take the medication every day, but if your partner’s outbreaks are rare, their doctor may recommend your partner only take the medication during outbreaks. [11] X Research source Medication is not the proper course of treatment for everyone with herpes. Only a qualified medical doctor will be able to tell your partner if medication is the right choice for them. [12] X Research source
Stay calm during the conversation and try to keep things in perspective. Keep in mind that herpes comes with few health risks beyond irritation and many couples engage in sexual activity for years without spreading the virus. [13] X Research source Be transparent with your partner about your expectations. You may prefer to only have sex using condoms or to avoid sex during outbreaks. If you can foresee a long-term relationship with your partner, you may be less worried about transmitting the virus. [14] X Research source
